WHEN WE GOT THE WRONG ROAD

BIBLE PASSAGE: 2 SAMUEL 17:1-29

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Lesson Prepared by: Krisha of Solomon’s Wisdom FB page

Lesson ideas taken from: http://markmcmillion.com/the-council-of-ahitolphel

https://counselingoneanother.com/2014/03/05/the-tragedy-of-ahithophel

 

NOVEMBER 01, 2020

 

MEMORY VERSE

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”  PROVERBS 4:23

 

 

INTRODUCTION:

Are you confidently enough to say, “I am in the right road”? What is the feeling of being lost and don’t know where to go? This is self-explanatory; we all know the feeling. Being lost in life journey has a big difference. It’s life and death situation; it’s our destination and our future which is vital or important.

Do you believe that all of us can choose the wrong road? If non-believers can and so can we, right?

 

Every one of us wants to have good Christian family, right? We want all our family members would go to the same road as ours but what if this is not the way what we want it goes. The reality is we don’t really know what is right from wrong unless we go directly to the expert of choices, and the best counsellor which is our Almighty God, our Saviour and Creator of all things. He is the expert of live because He created it. May this lesson will remind us that possible things might happen to our families.  

 

LESSON OUTLINE:

1.  WE ALL HAVE THE POSSIBILITY TO CHOOSE THE WRONG ROAD (2 SAM. 11:3, 23:34).

 And David sent and enquired after the woman. And one said, Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?

Eliphelet the son of Ahasbai, the son of the Maachathite, Eliam the son of Ahithophel the Gilonite,

 

We’ll talk about two characters in this part. First is David. We all know the ups and downs in David’s life. Along the way of his life, he made a big mistake and chose the wrong way. These were the starting points of life full of pains. Of course, God forgave him, but the consequences of his sins had just started. 2 Samuel 12: 10-11 says, ^“

 Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife. Thus saith the Lord, Behold, I will raise up evil against thee out of thine own house, and I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and give them unto thy neighbour, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun.

These things were really happened in David’s life. TO tell some, three of his sons – Amnon, Absalom, and Adonijah – each caused serious problems (2 Samuel 13:14-17).

 

There was another person whose name also began with an “A,” who revolted against him as a betrayer. This man, Ahithophel, had been a close advisor to David and could even have been called “the smartest man in the world.” “Now in those days the counsel that Ahithophel gave was as if one consulted the word of God; so was all the counsel of Ahithophel esteemed, both by David and by Absalom” (2Sam 16:23). He evidently came out of his own retirement and joined the revolt of Absalom as his trusted advisor (2 Sam 16:23).

 

What is often overlooked, however, is that Ahithophel evidently became part of David’s family by marriage. Who is Ahithophel? Two passages explain that Ahithophel was the grandfather of Bathsheba (2 Sam 11:3 with 23:34). One need not speculate too much to see that when David “took” Bathsheba (2 Sam 11:4), Ahithophel must have left David’s service. Later, the crafty Absalom must have assumed (correctly) that Ahithophel would jump at the opportunity to get revenge against David so he asked him to come out of retirement – an offer that the old man simply could not refuse.

 

We can see in these situations that a believer like David, can choose the wrong road or decisions in life.  And Ahithophel, an unbeliever, had chosen the wrong path in his life. Everyone is prone to disobedience or wrong path in life and this is how this lesson implies to every one of us; we need to be careful.

2.   WHATEVER LOSES, PAINS AND FAILURES WE HAVE, GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL (2 SAM. 15:29-31).

²⁹ Zadok therefore and Abiathar carried the ark of God again to Jerusalem: and they tarried there.

³⁰ And David went up by the ascent of mount Olivet, and wept as he went up, and had his head covered, and he went barefoot: and all the people that was with him covered every man his head, and they went up, weeping as they went up.

³¹ And one told David, saying, Ahithophel is among the conspirators with Absalom. And David said, O Lord, I pray thee, turn the counsel of Ahithophel into foolishness.

Let’s read these verses. Can you imagine the painful circumstances David experienced in these verses? Sometimes God allows us to be in painful circumstances so that we can see how weak we are and powerful He is.

 

Imagine your trusted counselor betrayed you, what would you feel? Let’s see David’s feeling from these verses: I can’t know for sure, but I’ve always felt this passage in the Psalms is where David talked about his relationship with Ahitophel. “For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company.” (Psalm 55:12-14) Later in the same Psalm David says, “”The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.” (Psalm 55:21)

There were a lot of emotional pains David experienced. From the first verses, we can see how two people reacted in their present situations. In David’s side, they brought the ARK of the Covenant and prayed and wept. One thing like that is the somewhat strange story of the time in King David’s life when his son, Absalom, led a rebellion against his father which was very nearly successful. This rebellion was allowed or brought on by God Himself as a chastening judgment on David for his sins. In Absalom’s side, though he smelled the victory, he didn’t recognize God’s hands. Any kind of rebellion is against God’s will.

Let’s see Ahithophel’s case, whatever reasons he had for being a conspirator, even the reasons are the pains of his family had felt, still he chose the wrong way. If someone had caused you pain and your reactions are not based on God’s words, then they are not God’s will. Be aware of bitterness in your hearts.

3.  NO KNOWLEDGE ON THIS EARTH IS INCOMPARABLE WITH GOD’S KNOWLEDGE (2 SAM. 16:23; 15:31).

And the counsel of Ahithophel, which he counselled in those days, was as if a man had enquired at the oracle of God: so was all the counsel of Ahithophel both with David and with Absalom.

 

We find that David had a councilor or adviser named Ahithophel who was perhaps David’s top consultant to his reign and kingdom. And the Bible says of Ahithophel, “The counsel of Ahithophel, which he counseled in those days, was as if a man had inquired at the oracle of God.” (II Samuel 16:23) That’s a very unusual Bible verse but basically it means that the counsel of Ahithophel was virtually flawless and perfect, almost supernatural so.

 

And yet…, something was wrong. This man’s incredible gift somehow didn’t prevent him from taking the side of King David’s mortal enemy, his own conniving, ambitious son Absalom. Nevertheless, of all that was going on, it seems David feared the council of Ahithophel as he worked together with Absalom more than anything else. When David heard that Ahithophel was advising Absalom, David prayed, “O Lord, I pray thee, turn the counsel of Ahithophel into foolishness.” (II Samuel 15:31).

 

As they fled east from Jerusalem, David sent back one of his most loyal subjects and advisers, Hushai, to feign obedience to the usurper, Absalom. Absalom gathered his councilors and sages, including Ahitolphel and Hushai, and Absalom asked Ahitolphel what he counseled.

 

Basically, Ahitolphel said they should go after David and his bands immediately. And probably if they’d done that, it would have been successful. Absalom then turned to Hushai, knowing that he’d been in the inner circle of David’s friends and asked what he thought they should do.

 

What a moment that must have been. What an incredible movie this would make. Did Hushai blurt out that Ahitolphel’s council was totally wrong, as he tried to save King David? No; no one would have believed that. So Hushai said, “The council of Ahithophel is not good at this time,” (II Samuel 17:7) and went on to try to explain how the best would be for them to wait till they had gathered a really big army and to take on David’s smaller forces in open field combat. Of course, this was because Hushai knew that David and his men were very weak and on the run at the moment and if Absalom followed Ahithophel’s council, they would actually defeat and kill King David and his men.

 

Another incredible moment. Absalom’s response? “The council of Hushai is better than the council of Ahithophel.”  (II Samuel 17:14) Actually it wasn’t. But the Lord had answered David’s prayer to defeat the council of Ahitophel. This delay gave time for David and his men to regroup and strengthen themselves.

 

Above all, no matter how smart you are, you’re nothing compare to God’s knowledge. This pride in Ahithophel’s heart led him to destruction.

 

Can you see what is the lesson is pointing our here? Whatever good plans our families have, the knowledge they had attained, and the experienced they had learned to, all of these are nothing if God is not there.

 

4.  DON’T TAKE MATTERS ON YOUR HAND; TAKE GOD’S (2 SAM. 17:23; 16: 5-12)

¹⁰ And the king said, What have I to do with you, ye sons of Zeruiah? so let him curse, because the Lord hath said unto him, Curse David. Who shall then say, Wherefore hast thou done so?

¹¹ And David said to Abishai, and to all his servants, Behold, my son, which came forth of my bowels, seeketh my life: how much more now may this Benjamite do it? let him alone, and let him curse; for the Lord hath bidden him.

¹² It may be that the Lord will look on mine affliction, and that the Lord will requite me good for his cursing this day.

 

To me, one of the most amazing parts of this story is what it says happened next. II Samuel 17:23 says, “And when Ahithophel saw that his counsel was not followed, he saddled his ass, and arose, and gat him home to his house, to his city, and put his household in order, and hanged himself, and died, and was buried in the sepulcher of his father.”

If you can see in this verse before Ahitophel died, he put his house in order. In other commentaries he possibly put things like his “wills” and other things- worldly matters. What I see in here? At the end of his life, he still had wrong decisions. He chose worldly matters before anything else. The last thing, the worst – suicide. Suicide can never be the right choice.

 

On the other side, let’s read 2 Samuel 16: 5-21. We can see in here about David’s attitude toward maltreatment. Let me ask you a question, what would you do if someone said something against you? Cuss you or did anything bad? The natural response for some of us is- we’ll react tremendously. We go to social media and post, right? For the worse, we take matters on our own hands – we revenge.

 

May the attitude and reactions of David help us and remind us on how to deal things. He humbled himself and took matters on God’s hands. Another thing that caught my attention is still God was on David’s side no matter what he did before. God gave him second chance and many chances possible. Why? Because he repented and humbled himself before God. So, you see, if our families are stubborn and full of pride, they would be led to destruction. What are the simple things we do that possibly lead to pride? We blame the church for our decisions or the outcome of your life or our children, we don’t see the importance of church in our lives; we seldom go to church, we don’ lead the family members to be spiritually minded people and we let our family members do it because we think they would not go that far or they would not reach that point. How would we know? The Bible is always telling the truth, “Except the Lord builds the house, they labour in vain that build it: …” Psalm 127:1.

 

CONLUSION:

And as it turned out, Ahithophel was right again: the rebels’ cause was already lost. Absalom and his troops were defeated in open battle with David’s fewer but more seasoned warriors.

There’s just so much to all this that my normal length of these posts doesn’t suffice to cover it all. Ahithophel’s virtual godlike gifts didn’t prevent him from making a fatal mistake of disloyalty to God’s anointed king. Was it ambition? Familiarity? Spiritual pride? Evidently something was seriously wrong with the condition of his heart, despite his incredible gifts and evident intelligence.

 

It’s all a massive story with layers of meaning and lessons for us all. One of the clearest for me is what Solomon, David’s son and eventual heir, wrote years later, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”  (Proverbs 4:23)

It’s all about your heart, not your gifts, not your intelligence, not your looks or anything other than your personal relationship with the Lord and how you conduct your life before Him. Ahitophel must have been one of the wisest men that ever lived. But his wisdom didn’t prevent his heart from making the biggest mistake of his life, which ultimately cost him his life. May God help us all to keep our heart right with Him.

 

Let me tell you this story from https://ministry127.com/

On a hot summer day in south Florida a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming hole behind his house.

In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks, and shirt as he went. He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore.

His mother, in the house, was looking out the window and saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, she ran toward the water, yelling to her son as loudly as she could. Hearing her voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his mother.

It was too late. Just as he reached her, the alligator reached him. From the dock, the mother grabbed her little boy by the arms just as the alligator snatched his legs. That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two.

The alligator was much stronger than the mother, but the mother was much too passionate to let go.

A farmer happened to drive by, heard her screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator. Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived.

His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his mother’s fingernails dug into his flesh in her effort to hang on to the son she loved.

The newspaper reporter who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs; and then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, “But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my mom wouldn’t let go.”

Instead of getting mad at those who try to help you do right and pull against the world, the flesh, and the devil, you should be thankful that they love you enough to not let go.